"Most women spend [most of their time trying] to imagine what a straight man would see, because it’s our social duty to be sexually attractive."


There's a lot of hoopla in the blogosphere over the New York Times Magazine cover story out this Sunday: "What is Female Desire?: A Post-Feminist Generation of Researchers is Discovering Things Dr. Freud Could Never Have Imagined" by Daniel Bergner.

Jill Filipovic at Feministe's thoughts on the findings given in the piece (emphasis mine):

"Shocking, absolutely shocking, that when women are raised in a culture that equates the female body with sex itself, that positions the female body as an object of desire, and that emphasizes that being desired is the height of female achievement, women will see sex as a process primarily centered on male attraction to women, and will get off more on being wanted than on wanting.

Shocking, too, that when “naked chick” is cultural shorthand for “sex,” women will look at naked chicks and think “sex.”

It’s not narcissism. It’s a lifetime of experiencing the world secondarily, and seeing ourselves through male eyes; it’s the lack of agency and power that comes with being an object to be looked upon."

In addition, Megan and Anna from Jezebel.

Tracy Clark-Flory of Salon.

Amanda Marcotte of Pandagon.

Courtney of Feministing

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